Sometimes I Like To Have Someone Tell Me That Everything Will Be Fine

I am a strong person, one of those people whose life has been bitten more than once. But I like to have someone who sometimes takes me by the hand to tell me everything will be fine.

To promise me that there is not much to worry about. It is not a weakness to want this. It is the courage of a person who has the benefit of good support and security when they need it.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery said very wisely that failure strengthens strong people. There is a simple reason: for a person to have a strong enough heart to lay the foundation for courage, they must first have fallen.

First, they must personally experience the wound of disappointment, the emptiness of loss, the scar of error.

Since this type of person is someone who learns super fast in the hidden power of repairing these wounds, only the strong people understand what it means to occasionally hear an encouraging word and a friendly hand offering to help them.

In a world full of twisted ridges, the support is fantastic. In a tough time, even the biggest heroes and the brightest heroines have the advantage that someone tells them that everything will be fine … because if we live on something, it is faith.

A secret necessity: Emotional hunger

Back in 1920, Edward Thorndike understood emotional intelligence as an “ability to understand and deal with men and women, boys and girls – to act wisely in human relationships”.

And he also said that if there is a dimension that tend to characterize people, it is “emotional hunger”.

There are times when we all need more support than we receive. Sometimes we need a little recognition and even tangible devotion.

But as  self-help books say, we must learn to be “self-sufficient.” That is, we should implement appropriate strategies to have positive self-love, resilient self-confidence and a strong personality we can use to get through any adversity with flying colors.

While this is good and positive, it is a small thing we need to make very clear.

A person who invests in his personal growth and psychological strength should not fall into the extreme of such aggressive “self-assurance” that they do not need anything from anyone.

Because sometimes, those who do not need anything will not offer anything either. Without realizing it, they may end up practicing true emotional materialism.

The key is balance, and understanding that a strong person is not immune to pain. They feel just like everyone else. Strong people are those who at one point allowed themselves to be weak. And inside, there is still some pain.

That is why they, more than anyone else, should not only provide support, but also allow themselves to receive it. The warm words and open arms can help heal their lingering wounds.

Everything will be fine, trust me

At some point in our lives, we all need someone to take us by the hand and tell us that everything will be fine. There are times like this when we simply do not have the self-confidence. Sometimes even our self-confidence will not guarantee success or a positive outcome.

There are times when nothing is more cleansing than sharing our burdens, easing the burden of our fears and worries.

We know, for example, that doctors who take the patient’s hands and give them positive, warm and inspiring words reduce fear and anxiety in sick people.

Few painkillers are as comforting as parents reassuring their children of insecurity, inviting them to trust them, telling them everything will be fine.

There are times, and this happens to all of us, when our brains cloud over. Because negative thoughts have the bad habit of staying close.

When this happens, when the riders gallop freely out of fear, we can not always think clearly. It is difficult to see that error and disappointment are not the end of the world.

It is then that a kind hand, a clear mind and an open heart can work miracles. Because we cannot go every single path of healing alone, even though we have learned to be self-sufficient. No one is exempt from darkness, error and weakness.

That someone tells us everything will be fine, it helps. That they remind us that everything in life comes and goes, it calms. That they take our hand and promise us that they will be there no matter what happens, it fills us with peace.

So let us learn to accept help, to humble ourselves and to receive what others freely give us. Above all, let us also offer our people our best.