Have Faith In Yourself: The Power Of Self-assurance

When no one has faith in you, you must have faith in yourself. When someone says that you are not worthy, that your moment has been, or that you do not want to get what you want, you can raise your head and smile. Because you are the only person who can limit yourself. Having faith in yourself will give you confidence and a more stable compass.

Sometimes it is necessary to drink from the lions’ water holes. Only by doing so will we have the opportunity to suppress fear and limit its influence. In this sense, insecurity is a bad partner. Anyone who chooses to live in a safe place will never enjoy the view at the top of the mountain, where endless possibilities open up before our eyes.

Abraham Maslow told us that humans come into the world with almost unlimited potential. Man has the ability to reach the peak of need where the highest goals of happiness and well-being lie. But as strange as it may seem, not everyone can reach that peak.

Reason? At some point, we come across a skilled agent who is willing to derail our personal growth. We can find them in many situations, and they often occur without warning. They can appear in the form of close relatives, friends, teachers, colleagues or business leaders. We talk about the people who cut our wings and convince us that we are not worthy.

The Jonah complex: When you do not have faith in yourself

Imagine that you had asthma since you were very young and that you were told from a very early age that sports were simply not your thing. Football, karate, tennis? Never! Maybe something calmer would be better, like chess or drawing, so you would not be in danger. Later you told your teacher you wanted to be an astronaut, and he looked at you with sarcasm and irony. “But you are not good at math. It would be better for you to pursue another profession “, he said.

Now you go to university. While studying geography and history, you decide to become a writer. It takes you a year to write an original dystopian science fiction novel. Now, when you present it to a publisher, they do not even write back.

Your manuscript is among thousands. Family and friends tell you that it would be best to just forget about it. They tell you that you should focus on becoming a middle school teacher. A teacher who once dreamed of being a professional athlete, later an astronaut, then a writer…

What should you do when no one believes in you? Maslow wrote a very interesting book on this subject. The title of the book is The Farther Reaches of Human Nature . In it, he explained that although most of us have exceptional potential for self-development, we do not always do so. We limit ourselves to fantasizing about what we could be and what we could achieve.

Yet we do not get the right media or the psychological conditions to do so. We allow ourselves to be influenced by the opinions of others and remain in our comfort zone. Maslow called this phenomenon the Jonah complex. It refers to all those people who are aware of their abilities, but who do not dare to develop due to fear and insecurity.

Have faith in yourself when no one else believes in you

There will always be at least one person who will try to tell you that you are not capable, that you do not know enough, or worse, that you can not achieve your dreams. When no one believes in you, you have only one option: to have faith in yourself. It is the most logical and credible way to prove them wrong.

However, such an achievement is not easy or fast. It requires that you work adequately with three dimensions. Let’s reflect on them.

1. Do not be yourself, be who you want to be

We have become accustomed to hearing the phrase ‘Learn to be yourself’. It’s time to move on and refine the idea a bit. If we limit ourselves to being “ourselves,” we can incorporate habits that are not in our best interest. If fear, uncertainty and the need for approval are in our current state, we will not be able to achieve our goals. Ideally, we should clarify what we want and who we want to be. We must promote an inner transformation with a lot of strength and courage in order to fully have faith in ourselves.

2. Take a leap between the life you have and what you want

Every leap needs an impulse, and every impulse needs sufficient strength, will, motivation and optimism. Therefore, when no one believes in you and your abilities, giving in to negativity and defeat is the last thing you should do. Make a list of steps, draw up a plan in your head, and fill it with positivity and determination. How to take the biggest leaps.

3. If some do not believe in you, others will

Reaching a goal undoubtedly requires the ability to have faith in yourself. But we live in a society. Therefore, going for a goal and succeeding is not something we can usually do alone. Triumphs need recognition. A promotion or a trophy means that others recognize our value.

Therefore, do not be overwhelmed by the initial rejections. Keep your head up for those who doubt you at any time and even make fun of you. After all, good performance has never had an easy start. At some point, the right people show up. These people will realize and know how they value your value.

Finally, we must remember that the opposite of courage is not fear or cowardice, it is conformity. In fact, that is precisely our real problem. We just settle down with what we already have and believe in the comments others make about us.

Therefore, we should begin to doubt those who ask us to stop dreaming, those who suggest that we come down from the clouds and stop believing in our ridiculous goals. No goal is ridiculous if it has lingered in our hearts and minds. We must challenge fear and defeat conformity to reach our own peaks.